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LOVE

1/12/2019

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​"If you have only one smile in you give it to the people you love." — Maya Angelou
What Do You Mean When You Say “I Love You”?
In 2017 I commissioned the talented graphic artist Victoria Gorbylyova to create a promotional poster for my work. The poster would be in homage to David Devant, one of the most influential magicians of the twentieth century. One of Devant’s most famous posters had the slogan “All done by kindness” scrawled in the lower right corner. In the twenty-first century homage poster Gorbylyova used a similar format, but I asked her to inscribe a different slogan: “All done in love.”
 
Celebrate Love
St. Valentine’s Day is next month and I’m excited because it’s one of my two favorite holidays—right up there with Thanksgiving. Celebrating Love and Gratitude, how much better can it get? The trouble with Love, though, is people tend to fall under two camps. There are those who throw the word around everywhere—loving everything from their partner, their sandwich, the Instagram photo, and everything else in between. And then there are those who refuse to use the word all together—perhaps out of fear of appearing vulnerable, being misunderstood, or maybe out of a genuine loathe for everything and everyone.
 
The Problem With Love
The problem with this word is that there are many sentiments that it can invoke and they all sound the same: Love. But they don’t all feel the same. The ancient Greeks had six words that are today all translated as Love, and psychologists have suggested that in addition to these six there are at least two more definitions to account for. With so many ways to interpret this word there’s truly no wonder there’s so much miscommunication and misunderstandings that arise from its use.
 
What Does Your Love Mean?
What follows is an outline of the eight models of Love as proposed by the Ancient Greeks and modern psychologists so that on Valentine’s Day you’ll be able to explain exactly what you mean when you tell your Valentine “I Love You.”
 
Storge
Storge love is a fondness among those who value the long-term nature of the relationship, whether between friends, spouses, children, pets, or colleagues. It’s also been used to describe love felt towards one’s country and even a favorite sport team.
 
Philia
Philia love is affectionate among equals, whether friends, family, or community. Some ancient texts used this term quite liberally as a generic word for any kind of love, such as loving a friend, a desire, an activity, food, or a romantic partner.
 
Pragmatic
Pragmatic love is practical and convenient, where partners are in service to each other towards a common goal.
 
Ludus
Ludus love is between those who value participating in fun experiences together, whether indoor or outdoor activities, games, joking around, and such.
 
Mania
Mania love is an obsessive desire to experience love, often as a means of escape or to reinforce one’s own sense of value. This kind of love can lead to codependency and jealousy.
 
Eros
Eros is an intimate romantic love. This kind of love may at first have an emphasis on physical beauty, but over time it may transform to include inner beauty as well.
 
Agape
Agape love is unconditional and wills the good of another. Those with this kind of love find pleasure in serving the beloved.
 
Philautia
Philautia love is self-love, which can be expressed negatively as vanity and egoism, or positively as self-acceptance and happiness for who you are.
 
Final Thoughts
With so many definitions of love it’s no wonder there’s so much misunderstandings that can get involved. However you choose to celebrate Valentine’s Day, keep these definitions in mind so the next time you love someone, you can pinpoint what kind of love it is!
 
Reflection
  1. Make a list of all the people you love.
  2. Below each name write why you love them.
  3. Based on your experience, decide which of the 8 models of love fits best with how you love them.
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